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Reflection: An Easily Overlooked Tool for Personal and Relationship Growth

In my recent reflective practice, I recognized that I'm a subtle "yes" person. I felt like I say "no" to lots of things! But as I reflected on why I was feeling frequent resentment for things I had agreed to do, I realized I was not in tune with myself around what I truly wanted to put my finite energy and time towards.


It's so easy to fly from one task to another, leaving little room for introspection. The power of reflection can transform our lives in ways we might not initially recognize. By taking a moment to pause and assess our thoughts and experiences, we can spark significant growth both personally and in our relationships. In this post, we'll dive into the vital role of reflection in growth and explore actionable strategies to incorporate mindfulness into our daily lives.


The Importance of Reflection


I'm beginning to recognize reflection as a gift, helping evaluate thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It opens the door to self-discovery. And this realization got me curious about what studies may have been done on this in the past. I quickly came upon this study, "Learning by Thinking: The Role of Reflection in Individual Learning" which found that reflection has greater impact on learning than additional experience after a certain amount of experience has been gained. Reflecting provides a potential to integrate experiences and apply them in broader areas of our lives.


Mindfulness is central to effective reflection. This practice encourages us to be present and recognize our feelings without judgment. And letting go of judgement when we identify an opportunity or a pattern that no longer serves us can be so hard!


Empowerment Through Reflection


Engaging in reflective practices helps us identify our strengths and weaknesses. For example, research shows that individuals who recognize their strengths are 20% more likely to feel satisfied in their roles at work and life.


By viewing reflection as a journey, rather than a final goal, we can cultivate a growth mindset. This shift prompts us to approach setbacks as learning opportunities. Instead of viewing a failure as a dead end, we learn to see it as a chance to adapt and improve.


Practical Reflection Techniques


When incorporating reflection into daily life, I recommend starting very small . Consider these straightforward techniques to build a reflective practice, and start by choosing one that resonates most with you. Get curious about the technique, even if it's something you have done in the past:


Journaling


Spend a few minutes writing down thoughts and feelings. You can choose to write an account of your day, focus on a topic or part of your day that brought up big feelings, or to write around gratitude.


📢 Tip: Try to avoid censorship. Consider this a space for full and open sharing. Avoid labeling things "good" or "bad", recognize these are just thoughts and do not represent who you are.


Mindful Meditation


Mindful meditation encourages a focus on the present moment. For me, meditation is still best supported with an app. There are lots of free apps and trials though offerings such as Headspace, Calm or Insight Timer. Research shows practicing mindful meditation for just 10 minutes a day can reduce stress levels by up to 30%. And if 10 minutes of meditation sounds like forever, start with one or two minutes. See how that feels and remember, there is no "right" amount of time.


Constructive Feedback


Offering and receiving constructive feedback is a key piece of relationship growth. Reflect on how feedback is given and received. Creating an open environment encourages honest discussions. If you feel triggered by feedback you receive, get curious as to why.


Embracing Growth as a Continuous Journey


Growth is a continuous journey that relies on our commitment to reflective practices. By taking the time to consider our experiences and their meanings, we build a pathway to empowerment. Each reflection can be a stepping stone toward a deeper understanding of ourselves and our relationships.


As you journey through reflection, be open for whatever arises. Celebrate your progress and keep reminding yourself of your "why".


Reflection Journey


 
 
 

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